The Holding Technique For No!


  1. February 5th, 2010 at 4:45 pm Kerryn says:

    Thanks for the video’s Tizzie, what a great idea. Its great to see it in practice rather than just reading it. It was lovely to see the boys as well.
    Best wishes Kerryn

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  3. February 5th, 2010 at 5:15 pm Tizzie says:

    You are welcome!

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  5. August 15th, 2010 at 9:24 pm Meagan says:

    Fantastic Videos Tizzie, and so helpful. Even after 2 Tizzie babies, I can still find new and interesting tips that can help us.
    Thanks for all your amazing work!

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  7. August 16th, 2010 at 8:30 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Meagan:

    That’s great you are still finding my tips helpful, thank you for the feedback.

    Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie

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  9. September 28th, 2010 at 12:11 pm Jennifer Galton says:

    Its great to see a technique in action as it is so easy to second guess what you are doing during those challenging moments!
    I can’t wait to try this out with my very curious 1 yr old. Fingers crossed:)

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  11. September 28th, 2010 at 12:22 pm Kirstie says:

    All the best Jennifer – thanks for your lovely feedback πŸ™‚

    Save Our Sleep

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  13. November 25th, 2010 at 8:35 pm Tizzie says:

    Here is a link to a mum using my approach

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  15. November 25th, 2010 at 9:45 pm Nicky says:

    Thank u Tizzie. I have twins though so it works well with one but not when they r both up to tricks. Any tips?

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  17. November 27th, 2010 at 5:07 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Nicky you need to choose one child at a time to use the holding technique with. If the other is intentionally going to get into mischief while you working on setting a boundary with the other one you might need to pop the ‘other’ one in a playpen or portacot with some toys while you work on the holding technique with the other toddler! Good luck and congratulations on having twins!

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  19. December 8th, 2010 at 10:02 pm Natasha says:

    Hi Tizzie

    All your advice is so good, but this is such a teaser(!) – am desperate for your toddler book as my 26 month old has just started to get quite pushy with friends (even though he’s tiny!) and I need to nip it in the bud! Please can you clarify the differences (if tehre are any) between the “save our sleep: Toddler” book on this website and the “How to raise a happy toddler” book that I have seen available for pre-order on a UK site? (Am in UK).

    Many thanks for the stunning advice in Save our Sleep that now has my 7 month old sleeping (almost) perfectly practically one day of your routines and advice, allowing me time for my wonderful (though testing) little boy! And for helping me regain some of my sanity!!! Any tips on how to make daddy sit and read the books rather than watch re-runs of Friends?!?!?! lol!


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  21. December 8th, 2010 at 11:27 pm admin says:

    Hi Natasha:

    Thank you for your lovely feedback. I am so pleased to hear you are doing so well following my baby book and routines.

    The Toddler book ‘Save Our Sleep’ Toddler and ‘How to raise a Happy Toddler’ are basically exactly the same. ‘How to raise a Happy Toddler’ has just been renamed and has a different cover for the UK market. It has has just some terminology changes of things that are different in UK to what they are in Australia but the basic information is identical. ‘How to raise a Happy Toddler’ is not due for release until mid 2011 in the UK so if you were looking for the Toddler book now you can purchase the Australian version and we can send it over to you.

    In regards to your husband, not sure I can help there – perhaps put a copy in the toilet? I have heard another client who had success in getting her husband to read the book that way – think she had to remove all his racing magazines first though πŸ™‚

    Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie

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  23. December 25th, 2010 at 8:57 pm Dee says:

    Hi Tizzie,

    Thank you so much for posting this holding technique, it is so great to see it in practice. It is working so well with my one year old.

    My 1 year old has been on your routines since 7 weeks of age and they have worked from day one of using them.

    I am looking to get the toddler book but would love to by an electronic version for my ipad. Any updates if and when this might be available for download?


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  25. December 30th, 2010 at 11:34 am Tizzie says:

    Hi Dee:

    I am pleased you find the holding technique video a help. With the electronic version of the book I am working on it and will let you know when it is available.

    Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie

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  27. August 29th, 2011 at 3:02 am Skye says:

    Is it possible to post the video for the holding technique for no again….I need a refresher! My 10mth old is obsessed with power points, pulling the covers off and sticking things into them!

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  29. August 29th, 2011 at 3:47 am Tizzie says:

    Hi Skye:

    The video above of me demonstrating the holding technique is above – you should just be able to click on it and the video will run. You can also access it from the homepage of the website –

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  31. September 12th, 2011 at 4:44 am Kirra says:


    I really just wanted to say thankyou. Your Save our Sleep book has given my whole family our lives back! It was like overnight our little 6 month old changed. She is so happy settled and content. The first day I put her on your routine she slept through from her dream feed till 7am just like you said! I can’t believe it! Her older sister is back in her routine and the family is just happier! Sounds like I have to invest in your toddler book now!

    Thanks again!!!

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  33. September 13th, 2011 at 2:09 am Tizzie says:

    Hi Kirra:

    Thank you for taking the time to thank myself and my team. It is great to hear how well the routine worked for your wee girl well done. I hope you enjoy the toddler book.

    Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie

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  35. September 19th, 2011 at 2:48 am Nikki says:


    I’ve been using your routines for the past 8 months now (my baby is now 14 months) They have worked wonders! Thank you! I need to invest in the Toddler book now as he’s becoming a little rascal and it’s becoming rather stressful ha!!

    I am also pregnant again and need to buy the the baby book as it was only borrowed off a friend the first time round. I was wanting to know the difference between the Save our Sleep UK and Australian version – is it like with the above Toddler book where it’s exactly the same but just the terminology has been changed to suit each country? The main thing is for the routines from birth.

    Many thanks


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  37. September 20th, 2011 at 2:31 am Mandy says:

    My son is now 5. Thank you for saving our sleep all those years ago. Our little boy responded to your technique within 24 hours, and went from the dreadful baby to the dream baby!
    I still insist on anyone I meet to try your techniques. They all have the same issue, and that is sleep!
    It works It works It works!!!

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  39. September 22nd, 2011 at 12:47 am Tizzie says:

    Hi Mandy:

    Thank you so much for your lovely post. It is wonderful to hear you have such success following my book and advice. Thank you also for being such a vocal advocate on my behalf.
    Keep up the great parenting!

    Le gach dea-ghui, Tizzie

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  41. December 27th, 2011 at 7:42 pm Mandy says:

    Hi Tizzie

    just went out and bought you book for toddlers … wanted the hubby to see the video for this technique so he does it with our 19 month old boy who has recently started to slap and saying ‘Dont’ to just about everything. The link above is not working nor is the link in one of your messages. Anywhere else I can check and any advice on how on the issue.

    Mandy & Ed

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  43. June 9th, 2012 at 12:32 pm TanyaL says:

    Hi Tizzie- I love everything about this except the consequence being “mommy’s going to HOLD you.” Is there anything else that can be said? I love ‘holding’ my son in general and the thought of being held by a child’s mother being a ‘punishment’ seems a little confusing. I am also not sure if it’s a different country language difference (I am from the U.S.) but we always say, “come here mommy wants to hold you” which is similar thing to hugging/cuddling. Does that make sense? Would love to here your thoughts on that. πŸ™‚ It’s almost like saying “if you don’t listen, mommy’s going to hug you!”

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  45. June 9th, 2012 at 12:51 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Nikki

    Yes the books are the same and just the cover and size of the book is changed for each publishing house and the odd word is changed like buggy to stroller. I am sorry we only saw your comment now.

    Regards Tizzie

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  47. June 9th, 2012 at 12:54 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Tanya:

    Here we don’t normally say come here Mummy wants to hold you we say come and give mummy a love, or come and give mummy a cuddle or come and give mummy a hug, or we say mummy wants to give you a cuddle or hug. Also the tome of your voice lets them know what you mean when you say mummy wants to hold you when its a cuddle rather then you are asking mummy to hold you they pick up on the differnce.

    Regards Tizzie

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  49. July 13th, 2012 at 3:27 pm Renee says:

    Hi Tizzie,

    Thanks for your video on the holding technique, my 11 month old is a tizze baby from birth and words cant even express my joy with your sos book. He has just started getting into flicking power points and i dont like saying no all the time. I am now going to try a different approach. I have such a happy baby thanks to you and has slept from 7-7 since 6 months!!!!!!!!!!! its GREAT………..

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  51. July 13th, 2012 at 5:12 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Renee:

    Thank you for your lovely feedback! Keep up the great parenting πŸ™‚

    Kind Regards
    Save Our Sleep

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  53. August 22nd, 2012 at 3:29 pm Mandy S says:

    This is such a great technique! How old does a bub need to be to start implementing this technique? My little one is 7 months and nearly crawling so I imagine she will be into heaps of things she shouldn’t be… Maybe I will buy the Toddler book in advance – I have all the others πŸ™‚ She understands simple instructions (hold mummy’s hands, lift your head etc), but is she too young for this technique?

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  55. August 22nd, 2012 at 4:50 pm Tizzie says:

    Hi Mandy:

    Thank you for your email. Tizzie does recommend that as soon as your baby is mobile you can start implementing this technique. You will need to choose the most important things to implment it for though and just use a distraction technique for lesser things.

    We also recommend that this toddler book can start being useful from as soon as your baby is mobile.

    Thank you for your positive feedback and all the best.

    Kind Regards,
    Save Our Sleep

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  57. May 14th, 2014 at 2:17 am Kylee says:

    Hi Tizzie,
    The video for the holding technique is no longer available to view on the website but I would love to see it to help with my 2 year old. Any other ways of viewing it please?
    I have recently purchased your SOS book and will start the routines with my 9 week old tomorrow, very excited!

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  59. May 14th, 2014 at 8:36 am Tizzie says:


    Here is a link to it

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